Daily contentment. What does that look like for you? Does it involve tackling a long to do list? Is it attending all your meetings and scheduled sit downs with clients? Does it mean finishing all the daily chores of the household for the week? Does it mean you finally accomplished the goal(s) you had for the week or month? The truth is for every one of us contentment can be defined and perceived differently. Depending on the season of life you find yourself in, contentment could seem achievable or it could seem like a distant hope. As I have pondered the question of what contentment looks like for me, I have also had to ask: How will I know when I have achieved contentment? Is it something that I will feel in a moment? Is contentment meant to be a state of living? As you can see there are many questions that one can ask surrounding this idea of being content. I’m no expert. However, I can’t help but want to dive in deeper to what it means to live in a place of contentment.
In my current season, it has been rather difficult to find meaning and find a sense of purpose in the day-to-day. I can often feel trapped in needing to check things off my daily to-do list while still taking time to rest and still be able to get together with people and socialize. I often feel as though I need to have had accomplished something significant, in order to be content, and therefore satisfied with my day. It made me realize that I am not living in a state of contentment rather trying to feel like I can be content.
If contentment comes from having to have accomplished something great than it is no wonder that many of us haven’t arrived to this place of contentment. How can one be content if one is constantly having to strive to meet other goals and standards in order to feel like one has permission to be content?
The truth is whether you are a stay-at-home mom, a student, some one who is a professional in their field or a young adult searching for their next place to land, we all need to have a sense of purpose and a sense of fulfillment. What happens though when we don’t accomplish what we set out to do for the week or for the day? Can we still be content? Notice how I didn’t say feel. What I am realizing in this season is that contentment is not a feeling. It is a state of being.
Similar to the attitude of gratitude, we can all choose to live in a state of contentment. We can choose to be thankful and see purpose in the little things as well as in the big achievements we accomplish in our lives. We can be content in times of rest and in times of joy and celebration, and even still in times of deep sorrow or confusion. Why?
Contentment comes from making the daily choice to believe that there is a bigger picture than what we can see in front of us. It is a choice to look beyond the circumstances and see the possibilities for good to come out of bad situations.
It does not mean we need to fake a state of happiness or act as if we are exactly where we wish to be. It is remaining diligent where we are and continually seeking improvement. It is choosing to fix our eyes on strengths rather than the weaknesses. It is choosing to remain constantly grateful for what we have and maintaining faithfulness on the journey.
If you believe in God, Philipians 4:12-13 gives us the secret to the how part of being content;
“12 I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. 13 I can do all this through him who gives me strength.” (emphasis mine)
The secret for those who want to remain content is to remember that it is not in our own strength, but by the power of Christ who lives in us that makes it possible for us to be content in all circumstances. God will never leave us so we can always trust that He has the bigger picture in mind. We must take time to be thankful and live in the place of gratitude while circumstances are being worked out to show His strength. We can also ask for his strength in times of discouragement, confusion, and/or loss. He is always willing to help us.
I end by encouraging/challenging you (as I too challenge myself) to take time this week to remind yourself that you can remain in a state of contentment as you choose to fix your focus to being thankful for what you are accomplishing right now, and what you have currently, instead of focusing on what you still have yet to attain or achieve. There is nothing wrong in having a plan for the future and living in anticipation for greater things. However, let us not lose sight of what is currently happening in the season we are in and the transformation that is already in forward motion.
C.M